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Filling your love account


Love accounts are very different from the usual accounts we are used to. I reason that love accounts operate on a hybrid of dos and donts that other accounts don't have.
  They don't all operate the same because the different account holders have different languages and reactions to the same thing.
Like a bank we all have to have two accounts the one from their end and the one from yours.
In the last month I am learning that love is not enough and on days that it happens its the credit in your love account that saves the day.

The thing about it is that you have to be intentional about saving so that you have what to withdraw. I read a story once about a couple that saved a physical dollar for every nice thing they experienced and on the bad days the narrative on the deposit stub saved the day. This thing called love sometimes you act in an entirely opposite direction and your heart is in a good place but every single turn reeks of wrong.

The irony of it is whether you are on the giving or receiving end, when you wake up and smell the coffee you have to be the one that wakes up and becomes responsible for everyone else.

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